I'm going to be shooting a reception (HS reunion, not wedding) in a couple months at a fancy dinner theatre with unusably high ceilings, dark fabric-covered walls, and (typically) very dim lighting. I'm told there will performers of some sort (magician?) on stage, but my primary subjects will be the attendees, not the performers. I'm generally a big fan of off-camera flash, but this room is large enough that I don't think it'll work well. I'm looking for some sort of on-camera flash modifier that won't be quite as harsh as a bare flash so that I can work the crowd and shoot groups of old friends having fun. My out-of-town brother uses a Gary Fong Lightsphere when he shoots bar shows, which is probably a similar lighting environment. However, I'm not fond of blinding everybody behind me, or of wasting most of my flash power lighting things outside my field of view. I do prefer the look of having the light source significantly higher than the lens, though. Two products that have caught my eye are the Rogue FlashBender (large) and the Lumiquest SoftBox III. FB: http://www.expoimaging.com/product_info.php?cPath=18&products_id=26&osCsid=a467nd4hv9a3svdfqv0vclbj54 SB3: http://www.lumiquest.com/products/softbox-iii.htm Each costs about $40 and they're similarly sized, but are different styles of modifiers. The SBIII is closer to on-axis with the lens, but I imagine it's more efficient than the FlashBender. Have any of you compared these two modifiers, or do you have any others you'd recommend (please tell me why)?