I photographed a wedding yesterday. It was the first Jewish wedding I have photographed (reformed). A good experience. There were three glitches, one being my main concern. 1. The bride hurt her back and was in pain, but hung in there like a trooper. 2. All events ran way behind schedule: so, what else is new? 3. The videographer! That's my question: The couple were not able to find a videographer until the night before the wedding. He did a Bar Mitzvah at the temple previously and was recommended. He had excellent equipment and seemed competent. He was not abusive or obnoxious. He was hired to video the ceremony photos only. The couple only wanted a record of the ceremony. Well, not only did he bring along the biggest video camera I've ever seen, but he also brought his Nikon D1, SB28 with softbox, an 80-200 ED f/2.8 lens and hovered right behind me. I don't have an "exclusive photographer" in my contract and try to works problems out on the site. Anyway, every shot I took, he took. Every pose I set up, he used. I asked him what he was doing, and he said he was going to make a "digital montage for use with the video." Ok, that's possible. I never experienced that before, however. but, if that is what he was doing, I was willing to cooperate. The bride apologized, the groom apologized, the bride's mom apologized...that he was getting in my way and that he doubled the time needed to do these portraits and group photos...I kept having to stop to let him take his...which we did before the wedding, and some after. My dilemma: If I told him to get lost, he could pack up and go, and the couple would not have a video. If I said nothing (which I did, being gracious) he extended the time greatly. No right answer...that's what a perfect dilemma is! I warned the bride's mom later that evening that he would probably come out very soon and try to sell her some stills and a CD. I even asked him if he was going to burn a CD of the stills, and he was honest: "yes." Any thoughts? I've never encountered this particular situation in my 15 years of photographing weddings.