I've been shooting weddings for two years now, have worked as a 2nd shooter for the first year...about 20 weddings under my belt. Recently, 3 have been my own... May I ask several questions in one post?? I know my camera & equipment...granted, knowing it & being able to work it well during the fast pace of a wedding are two different things, I'm finding. Good Gawd, I'm battling with exposure...yes, I know all about changing EV Compensation, and adjusting my ISO (having shot one wedding with a lot of ISO 1600 shots, & being told these were unusable by the primary shooter...I'm sticking around 400...) But one second I'm in the dark, then I'm facing light...how in the name of Annie Leibovitz do other photographers do this so calmly & seemlessly & seem to get so many brilliant consistent shots? I should add that I've got a marvelous Pentax setup (K10d, K20d...multiple lenses ranging from the Pentax 50mm 1.4 to the Sigma 17-35mm f/28, to the Pentax 50-135mm f/2.8. Two flash units (Pentax 360 & a Promaster unit I bought to replace my broken Pentax AF FGZ 540 while its out for repair...) Usually I mount the wide angle & the 50mm, but I'm in a constant state of fiddling about & I'd say 1/2 of my photos aren't technically what I want to present... So Exposure is ALWAYS an issue for me...Is my equipment selection appropriate? Also, I've been told by my mentor that I'm not assertive enough...& I've seen her be equally mild, so my question is this: how assertive are you? My last wedding was my own...we planned to begin formals at 1:00...but the bride & bridesmaids weren't ready until 2:00...with a 3:00 wedding (they wanted all formals done prior to the ceremony...with the groom & groomsmen as well)...When it looked like there was no way they'd be ready by 1:30, I spoke with the bride's mom who lit a fire, but it was another 45 mins before they were ready...then I had to rush through formals. Kicking myself now because there were soooo many beautiful pictures I wanted to take that I didn't get to do. Is this common? What techniques work for you? I've taken wedding courses at Betterphoto.com, at a local art school, & have been mentored...but I'll tell you: nothing prepares one for wedding photography like doing your own weddings. War stories welcome. Thanks...I can breathe now.