Last night I read and posted in this thread: http://www.photo.net/wedding-photography-forum/00XCNM Which got me thinking about one of the few weddings I'm going to this fall. One of them is an out of town wedding of one of my closest friends who lives far, far away from me so I don't get to see her often these days. So I don't personally know the "players" involved in her wedding where they live. They are having a very small wedding--I think about 30 people. I know having a good photographer was fairly important to her both before and after her engagement, as we talked about it numerous times. Her fiance, however, is extremely frugal....probably bordering on someone you would just label as "cheap" (this is said in jest, as it's always a joke about their funny compromises when she wants to buy something that he sees as pointless). I was a little surprised when my friend mentioned that they were now using the wife of her fiance's best friend, who is quote a "professional photographer." And she seemed a little hesitant about the whole thing. But I didn't think too much of it because she said the woman was doing it as a wedding present or sorts, so I figured she just didn't want to ask her previously to do it so she could enjoy the wedding with her husband...or didin't want to mix too much "business with pleasure." My friend also said to me to bring my camera along to get some pictures. Last night when I saw the above thread and kind of thought "hmm, I wonder if X will be miffed if I'm taking pictures along with her for fun...maybe I should forget the whole thing since it's such a small wedding." Our of morbid curiosity, I decide to internet "stalk" this woman. To my horror she has to be, hands down, one of the WORST photographers I've ever seen. And this is coming from me--a non pro who is NOT good at capturing the spirit of people. But I'm quite confident that my completely photo ignorant friends with their iphones could capture better quality photos than what she had. I mean...not even subjective things. Completely blurry. Practical up the nose shots. Heads cut off. On and on. I seriously do not even fathom how this woman is a "professional" or gets any business. So, do I take the approach that my wonderful girlfriend got herself into this situation...likely appeasing both her fiance's frugality and the awkwardness of her declining? Or do I become even a little bit more pushy and do what I can? Again, I'm not a pro. Not a great phtographer by any means and I'm not going to pretend I am. But I'm quite confident that I have the ability to get photos leaps and bounds better than what she displays (man, maybe it's a sick joke and she only puts her worst photos online???). I know my girlfriend is way too nice sometimes and would never be able to just say "no." I'm asking this here and I know I'll get brutaly honest answers about your opinions on the subject. It doesn't quite fall into any of the categories, but I figured here is the most applicable.